One Simple Secret To Your Kids’ Happiness!

Fact: 99.99% of parents spend at least 99.99% of their time worrying about the same thing – their child’s happiness. Well, at least I think those percentages are correct. Ok, ok so I made them up, but they feel about right. Right?

In truth, it’s probably even closer to 100%, but if you’re a new Mum (and if so, a huge welcome to the fold) you may as well know that in the not too distant future, you too will be joining the rest of us in pondering the big Happiness question. How can we know for sure that our child is truly happy? And if we suspect that they’re not, how can we change that? It’s one of the biggies we parents have to face.

As luck wouldn’t have it, you can’t just walk into a store and pick up the latest Happiness Measuring tool. Despite the speed at which our planet is using and abusing technology, nobody has quite managed to come up with one. Or probably even tried. Which, unfortunately, means we’ve been left to our own devices. (No, I don’t mean tablets, phones and laptops.) And with so many other parenting duties vying for our attention, we often end up looking for the quickest solutions.

Maybe if we just buy them more things, they’ll be happy. Or maybe if we buy them that one thing their best friend seems to really enjoy. Or maybe if we take them to more places. Or get them more friends. Or move their bedtime a little earlier. Or possibly later. Or maybe not. Searching for the solution to their happiness can often mean the end of ours. And that, my parenting friends, simply ain’t good.

How to Measure a Child’s Happiness

But what if there was a measuring tool that was guaranteed to work? And was completely free? Yes, you heard right. I wouldn’t even charge a cent for it. And although I’d like to pretend that it’s because I’m such a super generous person, it’s actually because you already own it. You see the thing is (drum roll please)…

The measure of a child’s happiness is a child’s happiness.

It really is as simple as that. As parents, we know the difference between our child being happy whilst also having a good moan from time to time and our child being unhappy. They’re two completely different states. But if your child is happy in themselves in their daily lives despite a perceived lack of friends or things or even too much of them, then they’re happy. And there’s absolutely nothing you need to do. Nothing.

Well, except maybe nurturing that happiness. And the same goes if you feel that your child isn’t happy. It works both ways.

How to Nurture Your Child’s Happiness

So how do we nurture happiness, I hear you say? Simple. By encouraging them in the things they enjoy. The things that really engage them in a joyous happy state. If spending an entire day playing in mud is the thing that makes your child smile and laugh, then give them more mud. If reading books is their one true love, then take them to a library. If it’s creating towers of blocks, then challenge them to see how high they can build them.

Giving more happiness to an already happy child sustains it, and surrounding an unhappy child with their own personal idea of happiness creates it. It’s one of the joys of being human.

And of course, one of the greatest joys of Happiness is that it’s infectious. The more you nurture and sustain theirs, the more you nurture and sustain your own. Which makes for one big happy family!

Orla Breeze

Orla Breeze

Orla Breeze is a writer, columnist, author, EFT practitioner and mum of three - so generally quite busy! She is Irish, but based in Hong Kong. She also lived in the UK for a total of eight years where she worked at both the BBC and ITV. Nowadays, her focus is on writing about parenting, offering private sessions for parents of all ages and stages, promoting her first non-fiction book – Daddy 101 - and writing her first novel. Oh, and looking after her kids!
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Orla Breeze is a writer, columnist, author, EFT practitioner and mum of three - so generally quite busy! She is Irish, but based in Hong Kong. She also lived in the UK for a total of eight years where she worked at both the BBC and ITV. Nowadays, her focus is on writing about parenting, offering private sessions for parents of all ages and stages, promoting her first non-fiction book – Daddy 101 - and writing her first novel. Oh, and looking after her kids!

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