If you have more than one child, it is sometimes hard to give each child that individual attention they need and crave. One mother found a way around that obstacle. Because I think it’s such a wonderful idea, I am dedicating today’s entire column to this one suggestion. Read on to see what this mother did.
“With three daughters close to the same age, quite often I found it hard to give them undivided attention. So, I started a time that I called their “special time” where I’d sit with each one, individually, for about 10-15 minutes each night before they’d go to bed. During this time, I did not take any phone calls or talk to anyone else. We’d sit in their room, (actually, we’d usually lay on their bed), and talk about anything they wanted to talk about.
When we first started this, it was kind of strange and they really weren’t sure what we were supposed to be talking about. It didn’t take them long to get in the swing of things though. After just a few days, they realized that this was truly their time, and their time only! After that, they really looked forward to their special time at night and would already have in mind what they wanted to discuss. Sometimes we talked about a problem they were having with their school work, another time it would be a problem with a friend, and as they grew up, we talked about problems with boyfriends. I never knew what the topic would be each night!
After our time together, we would say prayers and they would drift peacefully off to sleep. This time made them not only feel special and let them know someone really cared, but also made them feel “heard” in the midst of a busy family!
The unexpected advantage to this story is that when they were little, their problems were little. As the girls got bigger, so did their problems. But, because I was there to share their little problems when they were little, it was completely natural for them to share their bigger problems when they were bigger!”
I think that’s such a wonderful idea! With the hustle and bustle of everyday family life, there is no greater gift we can give to our children, than ourselves.
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