I Did Something Right? Wonders Never Cease!

As mothers, we are always second-guessing ourselves. Did we do this right? Did we do that right? Could I have done something differently? Did I handle this situation correctly?

It’s no wonder that when we do something right, we’re surprised! And what’s really crazy, is that we are probably doing a lot more right than we give ourselves credit for. But it’s so hard to realize that when our kids aren’t necessarily ‘happy’ with us all the time. I’ve always felt that if my kids were happy with me all the time, then I probably wasn’t doing my job correctly. After all, this is not a popularity contest, it’s motherhood. And motherhood means doing things that aren’t always easy or pleasant.

Here are some ideas shared with me that, after looking back, the mother (or father) felt they did the right thing.

  • “My wife and I had a simple policy that we followed for grades: For a “B” or above the kids had their own study habits. For any grade below a “B” we controlled the study habits (which sometimes included us literally standing over them as they did their homework and studied for tests). They simply knew what was expected of them!”
  • “When I was little I seldom went swimming. If I did, I was told not to go out too far. Consequently, I had a fear of water. I didn’t want my children growing up fearing the water so I enrolled them in swimming lessons as soon as possible. I never let them know of my fear ‘til they were older.”
  • “We had “family meetings” on a regular basis. This gave everyone the opportunity to “air things out” if there was a problem, speak about anything that was on our minds, hear what was bothering each other, and simply talk things out. Turned out to be a great tool for keeping lines of communication open.”
  • “We were able to send our children to Catholic schools all the way through high school. Because of them attending the Catholic schools, we knew they were being taught religion and we then “lived” it at home. Whatever religion you are, be sure your child not only learns the religion, but then lives it too.”

Kind of good to know we aren’t always wrong, huh?!!!

 

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Carol Schmidt

Carol Schmidt

Carol Schmidt is the mother of three grown daughters and has always said the most important job in the world is that of a parent. For years she has asked a very important question: "If you knew then what you know now..." She is excited to share with others the insight she has gleaned through the years.
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Carol Schmidt is the mother of three grown daughters and has always said the most important job in the world is that of a parent. For years she has asked a very important question: "If you knew then what you know now..." She is excited to share with others the insight she has gleaned through the years.

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