Children grow up quickly and all those cute little things they say and do as small children vanish from our memories, whether we think they will or not! So, I started a Journal for each of my daughters as soon as I knew I was pregnant. In the journal I told them about the pregnancy, how I told their father that “we” were pregnant, and many of the things they did — cute or not. I kept those journals going until they got married.
A Special Place for Memories
Through the years, I continued writing in the journals. Those journals hold all the special memories that would have otherwise been forgotten and lost. I even wrote about times when I was upset with one of them, or even my husband. I wanted it to depict typical days of real family life. I knew that one day when I gave the journal to my girls, it would be important for them to know that not every day would be as sweet as apple pie — some days were rough. And there were many days that I didn’t necessarily “like” them, but I always “loved” them. And that’s okay, that’s all part of family life, too.
My girls are now grown, married, and have families of their own. I’m hoping that as they read through the Journals, they’ll realize that they are no different from me — they’ll have good days and bad days as well. Just keep the faith and the love, and everything will be just fine!
The Advantages of Journaling
To my surprise, in my journaling efforts, there were a couple of side advantages that I didn’t realize until I had continued writing in my journals for several years. For one thing, it became very therapeutic. When I was angry about something or someone, I’d sit down and pour my heart out. I found that when I finished writing, I felt so much better. It was like I had that special shoulder to lean on and cry on at any time of the day or night. It became my counselor 24/7. Sometimes all that is needed is a chance to just verbalize what is bothering you…and given that chance you can many times solve your own problems.
Another advantage was in having this journal, I also had a written account of their illnesses. Later in years when there was a question as to whether or not one of my children had a certain sickness (i.e., measles), I just looked it up in my journal!
I didn’t have time to write in my journal every day – and frankly, not every day was there something worth writing about. But if there was, and I didn’t have time to write that day, I’d jot a note in my calendar so when I had time to write, my calendar became my reference to jolt my memory.
Yes, this can be a little time-consuming, but I can’t stress enough how worth the effort was!
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